Because of Rain

Let's be honest, I hate rain. I used to love running in it, but other than that, I really dislike it a lot. It is dreary, cold and WET. On days that it rains, all I want to do is stay in bed with a good book and a fire in the fireplace. Well, when I had a fireplace. Rain also makes me think of death. Why? Because it seems like every time there is a funeral, it is raining. 

Logically, when you think about rain, here are some thoughts & facts:

• Clouds bring rain.
• Rain is wet. (they don't call me a college graduate for nothing!)
• A lot of times when it rains it is cold.
• Rain brings growth - grass grows, flowers grow, food grows.
• Rains bring worms. Wet worms smell! The rain draws them out of the ground.
• Rain produces mud - which can bring mud slides - which can cause death.
• Rain can cause floods - which can cause death.
• Too much rain can kills plants. 
• After rain, there is usually new life.
• After rain, often times there is a rainbow.

There are some common themes here: death and new growth. Grass, food and flowers need the rain for growth. So while rain/water can bring death, it always brings new life and growth.

Rain and water is used to get rid of things as well. It gets rid of the old in order to bring in the new. Water gets rid of junk on our dishes, soap in our hair, mud from our shoes and dirt from our clothes. In order for new plants to grow, they need water. The seed needs to be fed. We all know the saying, April showers bring May flowers. As much as I hate the rain part, I love the new flowers part. I love the fresh, green grass.

Same with life. In every life rain will fall, the storms will come and our lives may flood some. That may look like a loss, a death, a job issue, family stuff, injury, etc. We need that rain to wash away things in our lives that may be in the way of how God wants to use us. Or, it may simply be there to grow us more so that when the time comes, and God brings the "next thing" to our lives, we will be better equipped and grown in order to fulfill God's stuff. 

Along with those storms, often comes tears ... water ... it cleanses our hearts and souls of ... sadness, grief, fear, or anxiety. Maybe, legitly, we have something in our eye that needs to come out! 

All the rain, water, tears is needed. Get rid of. Grow.

Why does the ground need to expose the worms though, if they live in the ground?!

So, let it rain.

Undercurrent

Last week some of my sister in law's family came for the week, for what is now a traditional July 4th week vacation. One of the things we did was tube down the Muskegon river. I, personally, LOVE the water and really just want to live one a lake and retire! Or by any body of water for that fact.

I noticed a couple of things:

1.  At my age and the condition of my once athletic and limber body, the best option is to just sit in the tube and float. Trying what the kids did probably wasn't the best idea. Rolling over on your stomach to watch for fish, or getting out to swim with the current or just hanging on in the middle of the tube while your legs drag the bottom, are not good ideas for someone like me.

2.  There is NO graceful way to get off a tube in a current.

3.  Trying to jump back onto your tube is just about as graceful as #2. For me, it was impossible. 

4.  Having to navigate over to the shore in order to stand up on solid ground in order to get back onto your tube puts you way behind the group.

5.  Said group are not going to wait for you. You are on your own! 

6.  My family is competitive but also "harsh" - and by harsh I mean you don't usually get away with doing anything. You will be laughed at and possibly mocked.

7.  It is one of the most relaxing things to do, especially on a beautiful, sunny day. 

8.  2 1/2 hours is just enough time.

9.  My mom would have LOVED it.

10. However, the most important thing I re-learned, is that undercurrents can be really dangerous and you don't know they are there until it's too late.

You wouldn't think that a river would have such a swift current. A lot of the way down is in shallower water, and by just looking, you don't see much movement underneath. But step out and boy is it there! I forgot how hard they can be to maneuver in. Which is one reason I had such a hard time jumping back into the tube. An undercurrent can take you down pretty quickly and it is difficult to get your balance.

I remember once as a kid getting caught in the undercurrent in the ocean and being scared to death! I am pretty sure I thought I would die. Here's the thing about them: 

     a.  you can't see them until you are caught in it.

     b.  you lose control and balance.

     c.  you have to fight to get that balance back.

     d.  while not being able to "see" it, it is extremely powerful.

     e.  sometimes you need others to help you get out of it.

We all have undercurrents in our lives. Things that we, and maybe even others, can't see, but they are there non-the-less. These things cause us to lose our balance in life, and sometimes our focus on God. They are powerful and seek to control us. For me some of these currents are: worry, doubt, fear of abandonment, fear of being alone the rest of my life, depression, anxiety, just to name a few. 

Here is the other thing about undercurrents:  most of the time you know they are there. Either by experience or someone telling you. So you can be prepared. You can be ready to fight or combat it. This is the same with our earthly undercurrents. I know these things are there and I need to know how to combat them. Some days I know they are coming and some days one of them may sneak up on me. I have learned and am continuing to learn how to be prepared for them. Speaking truth - God's truth and sometimes just plain human truth; pray; scripture; for me, music. Sometimes we/I need e. above: others to help us/me get out of the undercurrent.

Thankful for those others who help me and are never going to "let me go" to get swept out into the ocean.

ibprofin is another key to a 2 1/2 hour tubing ride for this broken down body!

14 Years Later

 Having moving back to MI has made me think about all that has happened since last living here. So I thought I would make a list:

1.  I moved to OH to work at Cedarville University.
2.  While living in OH, I moved 3 times.
3.  I bought my first home.
4.  I learned what it was like to truly live in community.
5.  I made some life long friends, including a best friend.
6.  Had 4 major surgeries.
7.  Became “aunt” to some great friend’s children.
8.  Lost 2 dogs.
9.  Went through some major emotional and spriritual healing.
10. Watched some really good friends go through some really hard and unjust stuff.
11. Walked through tough things with a great friend.
12. Worked with some great colleagues at the University.
13. Lost my mom to Parkinson’s/dementia.
14. Packed up my parent’s entire home and moved my dad to MI to live with my brother and his family.
15. Got married.
16. Moved to VA.
17. Sang in a choir.
18. Sold my only home.
19. Watched my dad decline with Alzheimer’s.
20. Had my marriage completely crumble and end in divorce.
21. Had my heart broken.
22. Moved to PA.
23. Took a job at my Alma Mater.
24. Fulfilled my dad’s dream of one of his children becoming AD/Coach where he spent 45 years.
25. Experienced betrayal of those I worked with and trusted.
26. Had one of my nephews live with me for 3 semesters of college!
27. Watched another nephew graduate from high school.
28. Watched my best friend fall in love and get married.
29. Bought two cars.
30. Started writing a blog.
31. Experienced a lot of ups and downs in my relationship with Jesus.
32. Learned what it is like to live daily with physical pain.
33. Got my third dog, Jack!
34. Experienced a God-size miracle concerning medical bills.
35. Became a part of the BEAR Sisters and have had 2 reunions so far.

I am sure there are a lot more, but these made the “short list”. Since moving back a few days ago, I have purchased a fishing license and have caught three fish on my first trolling trip. I have gone from midnight and 3 am feedings, changing dirty diapers, watching babies learn how to walk, to now watching them learn how to drive, hang out with their friends, play video games and occasionally want to hang with their Aunt :)  Looking forward to being able to watch the younger two peeps in their high school athletic careers. Sad to have the other two go off to college - MN and VA. Couldn’t they have stayed closer to home!? : (

A Nomad

I was thinking the other day that I feel very much like I am living the nomadic lifestyle. I have lived in 7 different States and can’t remember how many times I have moved IN those States. I often wonder why it is that some people live in one spot their entire lives and others move around. Granted, some want to, while others (me) don’t want to. Some people love to travel. I don’t mind it, but always love to come back “home”, wherever that is!

A nomad is someone who doesn’t live in one place for very long; a wanderer. Often, it is a people group who moves to find fresh pastures for their livestock. Well, I have no livestock! Unless you count Jack! He is often lively, but is well stocked with food so no need to relocate for that reason.

The good about it:

1.  Well, you learn to downsize because after packing up the same stuff every time, you realize that you really don’t need or use it all. I, in all seriousness, could live in a “Tiny House”. I think I would love it! I have gone from a decent size 2 bedroom house of stuff to a 1 bedroom apartment size of stuff.

2.  You see some great States, landscapes and meet different people. I have lived in some beautiful locations, that’s for sure. 

3.  It has allowed me to make some GREAT friends! Lifelong friends.

4.  You learn different cultures. For example:  up north you know we like or don’t like you. We just tell you! But down south, we act like we like you and call you sweetie, but we bash you behind your back! : ) It is true.

The bad about it:

1.  You never feel settled. 

2.  You have to say goodbye to some of those friends, or at least goodbye to living and doing daily life with them.

3.  Moving is expensive!

4.  I hate packing and unpacking!!

Some of these moves are for good reason and some for not so good reasons or circumstances. I have had both. For some reason I don’t think God WANTS me to feel too setteled. Maybe He knows that the more unsettled I am, the more I have to rely  completely on Him. Maybe He knows that the more comfortable I am, the less I will need to depend on Him.  

I am also reminded lately that God does things for our good and His glory. It dawned on me in a different way recently, what that really means. I understand the “for my good” part. It is the other part that I have been thinking about lately. God is going to do things in our lives to bring Himself glory. so that we and others will see how good He is, how faithful He is, how kind He is, etc. So I started thinking about that. God isn’t going to do some half baked “thing” in our lives. He is going to do things that others will say, “only God...”. 

What hope does that give me? That’s the thing....He is going to do something in me that will not only be good FOR me, but will have people praising Him because only HE could have done something that amazing. I don’t know what it is going to be. Right now I just need a job! But for now I am doing my best to hang on to Him, trust Him, depend on Him, be willing to accept the tough for what good will come out of it, and to look forward to one day being able to, again, tell of the good things He has done.

In the meantime, I “wander” some more. 14 years ago I got a call from my brother to ask me to come live with them and help out with my nephews and niece. They had just had their third son and at the same time, adopted their second child....a girl : ) The babies were 6 months and a newborn. I am now going back to them in MI. The “babies” are now 15 and the older two will both be going to college in the Fall. A LOT has happened in those 14 years. But it is time to be back near family.

So for now, I hold up my hands to Jesus and say, your will, not mine. (Knowing soon would be great though)! 

I will tell of His kindness

Is. 63:7 NIV

"I will tell of the kindness of the LORD, the deeds for which He is to be praised, according to all the LORD has done for us..."

I am more of a, "glass half empty" type of person. Not that this is something to be proud of, but it is the bent of my personality. So when tough things happen, I usually see the bad, the negative and focus on that. Others often remind me of the good or remind me that God has a plan; that HE is in control, not me or any other person. They point out the good to help me see.

Let me tell you about a lady named Marie. Last summer I had an initial surgery for my jaw that was partially dislocating and causing a lot of pain. Sparing a LOT of details, my insurance refused to pay for it after the fact. I have been fighting them now for 9 months, not getting much help nor winning the battle. I was told there was nothing anyone could do and I had a large debt with no way of paying it.

5 years to the week that my mom passed away this January, a lady named Marie called me. I've never met her nor have I ever spoken to her. She was from the hospital where I had my surgery and was in the patient account services. She "happened" to come upon my account and realized a number of things that were wrong and began fighting for me. 

She didn't need to. She wasn't involved in my case at all. For three months she fought, appealed, found things our insurance did wrong, etc. They would say no they wouldn't pay it and she would say that wasn't acceptable and would continue to fight. 

The Lord knew......

A few weeks ago something happened to change the trajectory of my life again. Hurt, disappointed in myself and others, feeling betrayed and other emotions ran through me. I don't see what God is doing and I don't know what my future holds. Two days after this happened I got a call from Marie........

My entire medical bill has been wiped off the books! A very large sum. There still are a few things that need to be done from their end, but for me....I owe NOTHING. 

God knew .......

Knew that I would need to see Him do something so big that the only answer is, "but God"..... He knew it needed to happen right after this event took place in my life, not before. He knew I would need to know and see that He IS and WILL take care of me. 

My circle of friends have been praying with me at a specific time every day for almost a month about this insurance issue. This is also a testament to their faithfulness in praying and their believe, on my behalf, that God COULD and WOULD answer in His way, and in His time.

God used a women named Marie, who didn't know me or my case. He used friends to pray for and with me for BIG things. He did it in HIS timing when He knew I would need to see His hand the most. I kept wondering why this was dragging on so long.........now, I know.

Why is the timing of Marie's call in January significant? My mom's name......is Marie. 

In the midst of hard......."I will tell of the kindness of the LORD, the deeds for which he is to be praised, according to all the Lord has done for us......."